So you think being gay is a sin? I have a challenge for you.

This post is a perfect example of why the pro-gay or “affirming theology” is so shallow. You cannot find a good social/psychology/biological/theological defense. Affirming theology is always heavy on the idea that if you simply knew someone who identified as gay, that you would change your mind. I know a lot of sinners, and I’m a practiced sinner myself. It’s shallow theology to say that to know a sinner means someone isn’t a sinner. It’s disappointing really that we can’t even find people who do a good job of defending their theology. People really only believe it because they WANT TO.

Word Made Fresh

We are six days into 2017 and the conversation that has dominated most of my social media in recent days centers around the sinfulness of LGBTQ people. For those who do not know, the presenting circumstance was a sermon preached by Kim Burrell, a Gospel singer and pastor, wherein she said that gay Christians in her church would die in 2017.

This is honestly a conversation I am tired of having, mostly because the conversation does nothing to change hearts and minds. No matter how many times you point out the inconsistency and incoherence of anti-LGBTQ theology, those who hold such views refuse to see it.

I am not writing this article to convince people about the holiness of human sexuality generally, including non-heterosexuality specifically, because that would do nothing to further the conversation. Instead, I am writing this to challenge all straight-identifying Christians who interpret non-heterosexual and non-cisgender (

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Facebook, You’re FIRED.

Amazing, amazing, amazing!!

Thus Spoke Stacy

Thus was my sentiment as I climbed aboard the Dreamweaver train Friday night. The hypocrite dial had been full-throttle all day long and I could bear it no more;  it seems that the damage done to my respect for my friends and fellow countrymen pre-election was only the part of the tsunami where the water gets sucked out to sea and the beach becomes supremely still, when everyone is looking at one another feeling connected in the silence as it dawns on all of you what a bad idea it was to come to the beach.

It was with that mindset that I woke to find I had been tagged in the following post:

General poll to my Trump supporter friends & family:
1: are you happy with what he’s “done” in his first week
2. Do you honestly support it?
3. Why?

Lord have mercy.

What followed was surprisingly refreshing…

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Freedom In the Age of Trump

After getting my heart ripped out in the two elections I’d previously been very invested in, 2008 and 2012, I approached 2016 with apprehension and disinterest. Well, I’ll correct that. I was very excited about Carly Fiorina. (I’m still hoping she’ll have a role in the new Administration!) She was such a great presence and voice for Conservatism. And she was a genuine Jesus-follower, who spoke about her faith in an authentic and compassionate way. I was on the edge of my seat, cheering for her as she debated her fellow GOP candidates. Her taking on Trump was glorious. Her dismantling of Clinton was legendary. Watching Trump get through the debates made me long for Fiorina in a bad way. But all that is now water under the election bridge, right?

Here we are in the Trump era. I am counting down the days to Obama’s departure. I cannot wait for that spineless embarrassment to be a distant memory. (Granted, he’ll stick around D.C. putting his  $0.02 in everything so…) I went into Election Night 2016 a lot differently than the previous two elections. I didn’t like Trump, I REALLY didn’t like Clinton. I thought his win was a longshot, I had basically resigned myself to Clinton drop kicking us down the path Obama had set us on. Nothing like an election like this to really acknowledge that my hope is not in a U.S. presidential election, right?

So where are we? God in His soverignty has allowed some of the most historic world leaders in history. In Romans 13 and other places, it says that leaders are placed by God…he ordains or at least allows even horrific leaders…the Hitlers, Maus, Pol Pots, Stalins, Lenins, Putins, and Kim Jung Uns…(I’m not saying Trump is numbered with these folks.) God is still good and in control even when our political lives are in upheaval and turmoil. Christianity is nearing the chopping block in our country…but we’re seeing a stronger faith than the previous generations in Millennials who identify as Christians. It’s because there’s no cultural advantage anymore. A teen who says he/she is a Christian isn’t doing it for cool-pts. Something is shifting in our country and I’m hoping and praying the result is a more genuine faith, more equipped to take on the problems and questions of the day. It won’t be in the public square in a position of power, but rarely in history has it been so! Think, our leader was murdered and all his followers squished and scattered. And yet, the rise of his followers has changed all of history. It’s exciting.

The Hatmakers’ Millstones

You probably heard about the latest drama? Jen Hatmaker gave an interview to Religion News Service where she covered Trump, BLM, and sexuality.

The Hatmakers are liberals, so not much of this article should surprise anyone. But I’ve pulled out the piece interesting to me, around sexuality.


Q. Politically speaking, do you support gay marriage?

A. From a civil rights and civil liberties side and from just a human being side, any two adults have the right to choose who they want to love. And they should be afforded the same legal protections as any of us. I would never wish anything less for my gay friends.

From a spiritual perspective, since gay marriage is legal in all 50 states, our communities have plenty of gay couples who, just like the rest of us, need marriage support and parenting help and Christian community. They are either going to find those resources in the church or they are not.

Not only are these our neighbors and friends, but they are brothers and sisters in Christ. They are adopted into the same family as the rest of us, and the church hasn’t treated the LGBT community like family. We have to do better.


I don’t know that any Christians disagree that gay marriage is now legal. Yes, it is. It has no bearing on the morality of it. From a civil rights/liberties side, I would say that consenting adults can have whatever variety of sexual relations they desire. That doesn’t mean your personal proclivities equal marriage though, does it? I think most rational people, if you ask if Person A should have the right to have Person B visit them in the hospital or make decisions for their end-of-life care in an emergency, the sexual orientation of said person won’t make most people say no. If marriage was about legal benefits, then Hatmaker would be fine. But she’s a Christian, so she’s supposed to know it’s not. She then says “from a spiritual perspective” and completely ignores the spiritual realities of marriage…what?? How the church has/does/and should treat those who identify as gay is OF COURSE a question…of course we have not gotten it right…but that ALSO doesn’t mean “therefore, you can change marriage.”


Q. If an LGBT friend of yours got married, would you attend that wedding?

A. I would attend that wedding with gladness, and I would drink champagne. I want the very best for my gay friends. I want love and happiness and faithfulness and commitment and community. Yes. That’s an easy answer.


Given her other clear misunderstandings about marriage, I will let this go. If I held her beliefs, I wouldn’t have a problem going to a “wedding” of two people of the same gender either.


Q. And how would you respond if one of your children were gay?

A. I think we would parent that child exactly the same as the rest of them. Which is to say, we would always be on their side and in their corner and for them and with them. We want for all of our kids the same thing: faithful, committed marriage and a beautiful family that is committed to God and the church. I would have the same standard across the board, no matter what.


Faithful committed monogamy? Or is it ok if your kid is faithfully married to two or three other partners? Oops, that isn’t popular yet. She’ll evolve on that later.


Q. You mention faithfulness and God. Do you think an LGBT relationship can be holy?

A. I do. And my views here are tender. This is a very nuanced conversation, and it’s hard to nail down in one sitting. I’ve seen too much pain and rejection at the intersection of the gay community and the church. Every believer that witnesses that much overwhelming sorrow should be tender enough to do some hard work here.


Here is the definition of “holy”: dedicated or consecrated to God or a religious purpose; sacred. Thinking about this concept drove me to look at what commentaries about scripture say about holiness. Here’s a great article from Christianity Today: What does it mean when God asks us to be holy as He is holy?

“For whoever wants to save his life will lose it,” says Jesus, “but whoever loses his life for me and for the gospel will save it. What good is it for a man to gain the whole world, yet forfeit his soul?” (Mark 8:35-36). To be holy means that all we are and all we have belongs to God, not ourselves, and that every aspect of our lives is to be shaped and directed toward God.

It’s unfortunate that to the Hatmakers and those who call themselves “Affirming”, think that someone who is attracted to the same-gender doesn’t qualify for following Jesus as HE describes it. So everyone else coming to follow Jesus is required to lose their lives. People around the world are brutally tortured and murdered following Christ. People starve, live in cages, are mocked and beaten for the name of Christ. Muslims give up more than religion if they convert. They often lose their jobs, finances, safety, homes, their entire families, and legally is Islamic countries can be executed. But to some people, in the American church, in 2016, if you’re attracted to the same gender, THEN Jesus words don’t apply to you. 

It’s offensive. A person who identifies as gay can get married. A man can marry a woman. A woman can marry a man. You can call other things than that marriage, but it doesn’t change anything. Anything outside of what God has designed as marriage, simply won’t be marriage. And it won’t be holy, because it’s ignoring what God said was holy. Sexually complimentary. Male and Female. Two aspects of God’s creation made in his image. We don’t get to just move things around to get more hits on facebook, be seen as relevant in the eyes of our culture. And in doing so, you are tying millstones around the necks of people who desperately need LOVE AND TRUTH. 

Here’s Jen’s husband’s sad explanation for switch from the Bible to a cultural acceptance of sexuality.

Rosaria Butterfield’s amazing response: Love your neighbor enough to tell them the truth.

Sex is our God

If our culture was right and sexual intercourse was simply two bodies engaging in a physical act, reacting physiologically and shaking hands and heading on their way, then sex couldn’t be our god.

But it is.

It’s become the end-all and be-all of all things. Every commercial, every television show, every song, every book. My identity. My identity has become “who are you attracted to sexually?” “What gender do you feel like?” “Who have you touched/in what ways?”

Children have been sacrificed on the altar of this god. If pregnancy is the unwanted consequence of a night of sex worship, it can be removed. Though the actual process of baby-removal is brutal, devastating, bloody, and always results in 50% of the humans involved DYING, it will be touted from the social media rooftops “Shout your abortion.” They convince you: This sacrifice on the altar meant nothing to you, it’s just appeasing your god.

From the Disney channel on up, it’s follow your heart (they mean genitalia and feelings). So what if you’re married with children? This new co-worker makes you feel things your wife no longer does. You’re no longer in love with her. Follow your heart. Leave the wife of your youth and your children. Worship at the altar of your god.

Women and men both become objects to be used in worship then you can discard them and move onto the next. The pornography industry provides 2D figures (often enslaved) for use in our worship…no consequence of those nasty feelings or real relationship.

It’s all connected and unraveling it would be too scary.

When sex is our god, we turn to all of it hoping for some sort of comfort.



Sex with whoever will have us (who cares about gender, the differences between men and women)

Children need to get out of the way so we can worship more freely

My feelings. My body. My choices. My. Me. Mine. 

But it’s left us broken and empty.

But here’s what God set up:

A man leaves his father and mother (one man, one woman, in covenant relationship) and is joined to his wife (one man and one woman). They enter into a covenant (3 part relationship with God as seal) that says “Even when you don’t follow through on your part of bargain, I will be faithful to this agreement.” The man’s physical, mental, sexual, and emotional drives spur him to provide for his wife and their children. The woman’s physical, mental, sexual, and emotional drives bond her to this one man and their children. Their sexual satisfaction is better than their peers. They both live longer. They are healthier. The man tends to earn more at work. They are less likely to be in poverty. Their children are less likely to have sex as teens or get pregnant before marriage. Their children are more likely to finish their education. Their children are less likely to be homeless. Their children are less likely to commit crimes or be incarcerated.

Everything God sets up is to protect us, to provide for us. When we worship the real God instead of this fictional one, what a difference it’d make in our world.